Humans 101

You’re Supposed to Be a Little Bit Selfish

Many of us neglect our own needs to avoid seeming self-centered — and then we wonder why we’re so unhappy

Rev Christie Bates
Human Parts
Published in
5 min readMar 9, 2021

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Portrait of a person—wearing a bob haircut, big dark sunglasses, and an orange knitted sweater—looking to the left side of the image in a very dark space. Reflected in the sunglasses is an open window showing a sliver of blue sky on each lens.
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In my early twenties, the subject of “selfishness” came up frequently in my therapist’s office — specifically, my fear of being selfish. In my attempts to avoid selfishness…

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Rev Christie Bates
Human Parts

Brainspotting Practitioner, Contemplative Therapist & Spiritual Director Dedicated to Seeing Clearly