You Don’t Have to Choose One Part of Yourself

Logic dictates ‘this or that,’ but real life begs for nuance

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I have always had a hard time with both and neither. It’s either on or off. We’re friends or we’re not. I love it or I don’t. I’m all in or completely out.

I don’t know how to have acquaintances. People are friends, hope-to-be friends, or…