A Message to Conservative Christians from a Gay Catholic

Processing why conservative Christians always seem to delight in being cold-hearted and harsh.

Psychotherapist Vibes
Human Parts
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11 min readFeb 29, 2024

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“There’s no such thing as a practicing gay Catholic (or Christian)” — is a sentiment that’s been shared with me innumerable times in my life.

Over the years, I’ve worked hard to process and understand why conservative Christians always seem to delight in being, what I can only describe as, cold-hearted and harsh. Recently, after an A.A. meeting I’d recently started attending, an evangelical Christian approached me to suggest that I “should beat homosexuality the same way I’m beating alcoholism.” He went on to quote Leviticus 18:22, when I had simply gone to A.A. to continue focusing on my sobriety goals.

Throughout my life, conservative Christians have seemed eager to share many of their strong-willed opinions with me, as a product of my outspoken nature. Although I am a genuine centrist moderate, I am very transparent in saying that I do not feel comfortable with my sexuality being collectively franchised. I am a person, not an acronym — and I certainly do not believe or support absolutely everything that the LGBTQIA+ movement supports.

It is a violation of my autonomy to ever feel “spoken for” and I should not have to require permission to express my own socio-political sentiments without fear. I am not ashamed to say that I define who I am (and what I believe) from the inside out — and not the other way around.

As such, I’ve managed to achieve the “distinction” of being considered “more sensible than my liberal peers” in the skewed eyes of the conservative Christian. Despite this unsolicited nod from the religious-right, I’m still regularly reminded that “how I’m living” is gravely sinful — whether such is actually a choice or not. In fact, homosexuality has been described as “the sin that cries out to Heaven for vengeance” by the Catholic Church. I suppose undesired distinctions come at a steep price.

On one occasion, I listened to a pastor inform me that gay people are an abomination for having a desire to express their love for one another through physical means. Many times, the general message I’ve received is that homosexuality will only…

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Psychotherapist Vibes
Human Parts

Clinical Psychotherapist. Forthcoming Doctor of Behavioral Health (2026). B.A. Speech Communication and Rhetoric, MSW, Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW)