Human Parts
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Human Parts

A Personal History of Dating Men With ‘Potential’

I convinced myself I could make things work, no matter the obstacle

Illustration by Joan Alturo

I have gone to extraordinary lengths to make people love me.

I loved my first real partner, the man I lived with in graduate school, because he was a delightful combination of strong and gentle. He’d experienced the harshness of the world and…




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Nicole Peeler

Nicole Peeler

Novelist and essayist. Director of the MFA in Writing Popular Fiction at Seton Hill University. Find out more at

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