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After 15 Years I Didn’t Expect To Fall For Him
What started out as casual sex led to the healthiest relationship of my life and it’s scary as hell
He was on the bed and I sat in his desk chair. We were mostly sober, we’d had something like one drink apiece, but were giddy as if we’d taken an edible. He looked so happy. It had been a fun night but it was time to rip the band-aid off.
Just do it! I repeated to myself a few times, trying to give myself the nudge I needed to have the talk. It was then at that moment that I realized that butterflies didn’t have to be confined to the stomach. I felt them everywhere.
Deep breath in… and exhale.
It was now or never. “Let me ask you a question. What are we?”
Early on in life, my mother gave me some sort of talk about men. The gist of the conversation was that men only wanted one thing and that once they got it they would leave me. Basically don’t have sex until you’re married.
When I was a preteen my cousin married his long-term girlfriend not because he wanted to but because he felt pressured to do it. She moved in with our huge extended family — me, my mom, my grandmother, my two aunts, my cousin and his young son. To me, she was like a big sister. I thought she was so cool…
