I Chose My Friend over My Beliefs

Transformation is a step-by-step unfolding process.

Kate Orione
Human Parts


Photo by Tayla Kohler on Unsplash

We’re all guilty of making assumptions about ourselves and others. We boldly state, ‘I would never do that,’ swear, ‘I will love you forever,’ or declare, ‘She’s my best friend for life.’ But life is unpredictable; circumstances change, and our perceptions and choices transform. Confronting the disappointment of unmet expectations is tough, especially when it involves shifting the decisions and behaviors of our loved ones. However, these turning points, though painful, can free us, impart valuable lessons about ourselves and others, and propel us toward new beginnings.

A year before my 40th birthday, I started documenting my journey leading up to that milestone by writing a diary. In my mind, the year was destined to revolve around finding Mr. Right, celebrating my birthday hand in hand, and proudly introducing him to my friends and family. However, as the day of my birthday came and went, there was no sign of Prince Charming arriving on a horse or even an electric scooter to rescue me.

I thought my journal would be a playful echo of Bridget Jones’s Diary. Yet, it took an unexpected turn, resembling more of a severe exploration akin to the Netflix series “Unorthodox.” I never foresaw that on my way to 40, I’d dive into profound self-reflection…