I Didn’t Cry When Tom Brady Retired

When — and why — are men driven to tears?

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My father once told me that the only time he ever saw his dad cry was when Bob Cousy retired from the Boston Celtics. This says a lot about what it took to get a man to reveal his feelings of pain and loss in 1963.

It also says a lot about Cousy, whose six championships with the Celtics match up nicely with Tom Brady’s six Super Bowls for the New England Patriots.

Until now, I never quite understood this bit of family lore. I read it as a parable about how bottled-up men can be, and never considered why my grandfather felt so connected to an athlete… one everyone called “Cooz.”

I was never an athlete, and I never followed sports until the ascension of Larry Bird; which happened to dovetail perfectly with my high school years. Together, these facts partially explain the total sense of disconnection I felt from my grandfather’s reaction.

But even after I became a fan, I didn’t cry when Bird retired.

I never had the chance to talk to my grandfather about Bob Cousy or the feelings he held for him. Instead, I was left with this kind-of-humorous, kind-of-sad recollection. Rather than focusing on what could have possibly been so important about Bob Cousy for Grandpa Sam, I was left wondering about all the feelings he…