This Is Us

I Want a Partner Who Expands My World, Not Fits Into It

But according to the men I know, the feeling’s not universal

Double exposure of a couple standing on staircase against railing.
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An ex of mine, who I’ll call Matt, recently admitted that if he were to meet someone with a life as established as his own — someone extremely committed to her job, who owned a house, and felt rooted in her community — it…