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This Is Us

I Want a Partner Who Expands My World, Not Fits Into It

But according to the men I know, the feeling’s not universal

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An ex of mine, who I’ll call Matt, recently admitted that if he were to meet someone with a life as established as his own — someone extremely committed to her job, who owned a house, and felt rooted in her community — it…




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Emily J. Smith

Emily J. Smith

Writer and founder of Chorus, the matchmaking app where friends swipe for friends. More at (or

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