It’s Not You, It’s Me: How Our Brains Betray Us

Photo credit: Kevin Dooley

I used to believe that I “had a broken picker,” when it came to relationships. It’s a common phrase used for those drawn to the incompatible, which can range from mildly unsuitable to actively toxic.

It’s also an odd phrase, when unpacked. It sounds self-reflective, and yet it’s ultimately blaming: the other person is broken. They are the bad pick. It puts the shoe on the other…