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Lessons in Couple Privilege and Nonmonogamy

Thinking you can choose how a relationship will evolve has risks.

A masculine person sitting behind and resting their head on the shoulder of another masculine person.
A masculine person sitting behind and resting their head on the shoulder of another masculine person.

Since I prefer to date other nonmonogamous people, the question “How long have you and your partner been polyamorous?” comes up fairly early in conversations. It’s more than just curiosity. I consider it a litmus test, a sizing up, because…