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A Wedding-Shaming Facebook Page Hated on My Dress

I thought my dress was perfect, but I knew it wouldn’t be for everyone

Clare Cullen / Clisare
Human Parts
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6 min readApr 25, 2020

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I got married in June 2018. In November of that year, a woman named Erin posted a photograph of my husband and I walking down the aisle after saying “I do,” with the caption “No… just, no.”

Photo: Meriam Alnaman; Scribbles: Erin

To this day, I sometimes wonder who this woman is and how she got a photograph of my wedding. The rules of the Facebook group state that you must block faces unless you have sourced the photograph from a public source… and our faces were scribbled out. Had they not been, I would have assumed she took the photo from my public Instagram page or my public Twitter, and I wouldn’t have thought twice about it. However, the scribbles tell a story. They tell me that Erin got my photograph either from my private Facebook page or from someone I know. The photograph she scribbled on also has no filters on it, so that rules out the version posted on my private Facebook page. Neither I nor my husband are friends with her on Facebook. I often wonder how she got my photo and who she is.

I have no ill feeling toward Erin for shaming my wedding dress, and I am not upset that it wasn’t to her taste. Even still, I have unfortunately found that the post has stuck with me.

Erin didn’t specify what her issue was, so the commenters offered up their guesses as to what her “no” was in reference to. There was a varied discussion, from people arguing that the photo wasn’t deserving of a “no” to comments so wonderfully worded they made me laugh, like: “The cape is cute, but that dress can fuck off back to whatever 90210 prom episode it was inspired by.”

Perhaps surprisingly, some of the nicer comments have, in the long term, proven the most cutting. Rachel described my dress as “fucking cute” but added, “it probably could’ve fit her better.” Jenny agreed, writing, “the bodice needs some more thought.” Jessica softened her first blow, describing my dress as “a beautiful blue,” adding “I love the cape,” but then landing a right hook with, “but that dress design isn’t very flattering imo.” Andrea followed suit, commenting, “Love love love the cape… the color is stunning… both fit the setting… but no, the dress…

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Clare Cullen / Clisare
Human Parts

YouTube Content Creator & Twitch Streamer. I use Medium to share and expand on my video features on YouTube.