Singing with Strangers
I had to stop caring before I could understand what Mom had given me.
Audrey was never the nicest person in the room. You wouldn’t know that from her persistent smile and good nature. But certain core beliefs boiled beneath the surface and, in telling moments, revealed her to be shockingly judgmental.
Past the age of 35, a woman with long hair “looks like a jerk,” she once told me. My wife, Kim, has long hair. She doesn’t look like a jerk, and I’m not just saying that.
When Ellen DeGeneres came out in 1997, Audrey, who thought Ellen was hilarious, stopped watching her show. “Yep, I’m Gay” on the cover of Time wasn’t funny. Ellen was supposed to be funny.
A whole bunch of folks were going to burn for eternity, starting with John, Paul, George, and Ringo. That morning in 1969 when newspapers around the world declared Paul was dead, Audrey declared around the breakfast table that “those Beatles are all going to hell.”
It wasn’t a question, or even a premise. Audrey, my God-fearing Catholic mother, dragged us to church every Sunday. She didn’t eat meat on Friday, confessed her sins monthly, and could snap a Rosary from her purse blindfolded. There was no doubt she had the afterlife figured out. The Fab Four was simply damned for all of time. This appeared to be the price of growing long hair and repeatedly…
