Mind Games

Quarantine Helped Me Confront My Fear of Hair Loss

Now, I see my former trauma as an opportunity for growth

Photo courtesy of the author.

For five years I’ve kept the bones of an essay about having alopecia on my desktop. That essay begins by telling the reader about the first time someone pointed out a bald spot on my head. It was Josh Pfolhs — the most popular boy in the fifth grade — loudly, during a spelling test. Then there are a few pages about my childhood and a few more pages about high school and college and a sort of log of each major flare-up.

Then I stop writing or editing it. Sometimes for a year or longer.

Because I have never been able to figure out what, exactly, I want to say about alopecia.

Alopecia occurs when the immune system attacks hair follicles. The body fails to recognize its own cells, its own hair. It is commonly believed that alopecia is brought on by stress, though scientists still aren’t certain. The only thing they are confident about asserting is that alopecia, of any kind, is incurable. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t come and go for some people, including me, but there is no guarantee of any final going.

I have some combination of alopecia areata — round bald patches on the scalp and face — and alopecia universalis — complete…