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The Hardest Truth About Domestic Abuse

Despite everything, I still loved my abuser

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AAll stories about abuse are hard. For me, this one is the hardest. It’s the hardest because it’s the truest, and because it complicates our impulse to separate the good guys from the bad guys. My husband was one of each.

When his dark side was in control, he was abusive; there is no disputing this…




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Maggie Haukka

Maggie Haukka

Coder, Decoder, Code-switcher, Truth-teller.

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