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The Last Great Vacation

How a pre-pandemic whale swim brought me eye to eye with a humpback — and my own mortality

Sarah Kasbeer
Human Parts
Published in
21 min readFeb 19, 2021

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Photos courtesy of the author.

The whales are playing hard to get. It’s a sunny day off the coast of Vava’u island group, and my father, sister, and I have set off in search of humpbacks. The Tongan archipelago is known for a migrating population of over 2,000 whales who calve and mate in its subtropical waters during the winter — after gorging in the krill-rich Antarctic all summer. We scan the cobalt blue swells for everything from blowhole plumage to full-body breaching. Ideally, we’d like to find a whale that will tolerate us gawking at it underwater for a few minutes before it swims away.

Plunging into the open ocean with humpbacks is not a normal activity for anyone in my family. We are not adrenaline junkies — we are safety nerds, and my father is our fearful leader. As a retired ophthalmologist, he takes special care to wear protective goggles while playing tennis with other men of advanced age. Attend a basketball game with him, and he’ll be sure to remove the stick from your pennant. When driving, he performs an obligatory seat belt check on all passengers before so much as exiting the garage.

I found it odd then that my mother invited my sister and me, both in our late thirties…

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Sarah Kasbeer
Sarah Kasbeer

Written by Sarah Kasbeer

Fiction writer and essayist. I wrote a book: A WOMAN, A PLAN, AN OUTLINE OF A MAN. More: www.sarahkasbeer.com