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Why People Don’t Want To Fall in Love
Life is easier when you don’t give your heart.
When you’re single and unavailable, you live on your own terms. There’s a certain peace in waking up to a quiet house, spending your money exactly how you want, and never having to explain why you stayed up until 3:00 AM watching that new series everyone’s talking about. I used to think this was just an excuse people made when they couldn’t find love — but now I understand it’s much more complex than that.
Of course, I didn’t always think this way. I used to believe that love was exactly like it was portrayed in the movies. Once you find your person, you will have a happily ever after. However, after a messy breakup that left me depressed for a long time, I swore to myself that I didn’t want to feel so vulnerable in my life. And so it went on for many years, believing that love was a simple transaction where you showed a person how successful you are, and the other person tried to give you something equally valuable so you can build a future together.
I was with high-ranking politicians who gave me a life of luxury, businessmen who helped me understand investments and grow professionally, and the typical people-pleaser who did everything for me, and all he wanted was my happiness. I saw my friends suffer because of men who didn’t treat them right, and…
