Women, Here Are 11 Reasons Why Men Don’t Care About Your Experiences of Sexual Violence

Elizabeth Childs Kelly
Human Parts
Published in
3 min readSep 27, 2023

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A few weeks ago, I wrote an article challenging men to take a more active role in helping prevent sexual harassment and violence. In it, I shared a story of a friend’s frightening experience, referenced CDC statistics that indicate that half or more of all women have experienced sexual violence, and pointed out that based on those numbers, even the so-called “good guys” surely know some men who have committed acts of harassment or worse against women. I also provided several questions for men who wished to reflect on their own possible silence or complicity in maintaining a culture of violence against women.

The comments came fast and furious, and while some men did offer support and encouragement, the majority responded somewhat differently. Ladies, as it turns out, there are some very consistent reasons why men can’t be bothered to care about your personal safety. In the spirit of public service, I thought I’d summarize them for you here.

Content warning: I’m presenting an overview of the actual comments I received in jest. However, if you have experienced sexual violence personally, please check in with yourself as to whether it will serve you to read further. If, on the other hand, you possess a particularly steely resolve, you can dive into all the original comments

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Elizabeth Childs Kelly
Human Parts

Author, Home to Her (Womancraft Publishing). Host, Home to Her podcast. I write about the Sacred Feminine and her relevance to us today.