If You’re Thinking About Getting Sober, You Probably Should
That little voice telling you to stop drinking might just be worth listening to
If you’ve been thinking about getting sober in the new year—or whenever you’re reading this—but are also wondering whether it’s really necessary and actually a good idea, trust me: It is.
If you’re considering getting sober, getting sober is a good idea. The fact that you’re wondering whether you need to get sober is a sign that you need to try sobriety.
This doesn’t necessarily mean you need to stop drinking forever. Maybe you just need a break, and maybe—whatever you choose to do—your life will be fine. But in a lot of cases, when you start to consider making these kinds of changes, there’s a reason.
If you’ve entertained the idea that you need to give up drinking, you’ve done so because it’s a problem for you in some way. Something inside is warning you that things aren’t working the way they should. Listen to that voice.
I’m not writing this because everyone should stop drinking or even because I care whether people get sober. I love(d) drinking, and I hope people can enjoy it healthily. But I’m someone who would probably be on the street, in jail, or dead if I hadn’t gotten sober.
One of the first things I realized after I stopped drinking was that I’d been debating the decision—and doing everything in my power to avoid facing it—for years.
For years I wondered whether stopping drinking was the right thing to do, whether it was worth it—even as alcoholism was ruining my life. Drinking poisoned my health, landed me in jail repeatedly, decimated my finances, and destroyed my relationships.
As all this happened, I pondered whether stopping made sense, whether my situation was dire enough that I had to resort to something as drastic as sobriety. In my backward, poorly programmed, and deeply addicted brain, the normal course was to continue trying to make drinking work. Simply stopping seemed like the extreme choice.
Addiction will always overflow any container you try to put it in.