This Is Us

Lessons in Couple Privilege and Nonmonogamy

Thinking you can choose how a relationship will evolve has risks.

Louie Murray
Human Parts
Published in
7 min readJul 7, 2020

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Since I prefer to date other nonmonogamous people, the question “How long have you and your partner been polyamorous?” comes up fairly early in conversations. It’s more than just curiosity. I consider it a litmus test, a sizing up, because…

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Louie Murray
Human Parts

Sometimes I think so hard words fall out my hands and here we are. Life’s short, stay soft, eat cake and roller skate.