The way white people see me is not how I see myself

The one time you fight back could be your last

Actor and activist Matt McGorry shares how he lost himself to diet culture — and what it took to come home

At a gay club in the ’90s, I compete for attention with lighter-skinned men — and confront years of internalized racism

I learned the quiet heartbreak of losing someone who truly understood what it meant to live in a body like mine

He lost his leg to a bomb in Iraq and his life to painkillers back home

For over a decade, the most important man in my life was the one in my head that told me not to eat too much

It took me 25 years to get the cut I wanted. Maybe one day I’ll get it again.

Isolation has made me realize how vital human connections are

A dispatch from midlife

At the library, you could say yes to everything

As my daughters and I stared at a livestream of an open casket, I realized death is always remote

An ode to the experiences we took for granted

A visual essay about seeing the world more clearly

Masturbation isn’t selfish

A conversation might sound one-sided, but there’s more beneath the surface than you’d think

Finally, we live in the same city again — the city of singularity and loneliness and only speaking on Skype

Two cemeteries, two cities, and a dispatch from the afterlife