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It’s a Thin Line Between Intimacy and Self-Betrayal
Learning about attachment styles has helped me contextualize my previously baffling dating patterns
Have you ever dated someone brilliant? The type who listens to astrophysicists interview each other for fun. Actually, scratch that — the type who watches astrophysicists interview each other for fun. On a projector. As in, the type who purchased a projector for the sole purpose of screening YouTube videos featuring two experts framed by a chilling white background, talking about specific things like the ways REM sleep contributes to longevity.
This, by the way, is just in their free time. A workday is a whole other story, which kind of goes like this: Wake up at 6 a.m., go for a refreshing(?) 10K jog, shower, read a book for about half an hour, then work, uninterrupted, until 8 p.m. I may be slightly exaggerating the uninterrupted thing, because every hour or so, they do allow themselves a brief Twitter intermission, after which they will turn to you with a tidbit of news from the fringes, something like, “Did you know Google crowdsources its map data to study movement trends in different cities?”
Before turning back to their Excel sheet. Also, while all this is happening, they are scouring…
