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Sperm Donor

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Lived Through This

Their choice to hide my biology has forever altered how I see myself

Blurry black and white image of a person walking holding an umbrella with some bare trees.
Blurry black and white image of a person walking holding an umbrella with some bare trees.

The day after I found out I was donor-conceived, I spent the afternoon walking through the streets of midtown Manhattan, wondering if anyone I passed by could be a relative. The information I had about the anonymous sperm donor my parents used was minimal: He was Jewish and had been in medical school in the ’80s. As I strolled by hordes of Jewish-looking middle-aged men, with the same brown eyes and brown hair my genes expressed, the unlikelihood of ever meeting my biological father weighed on me.

I was proud of myself for being realistic. It was borderline laughable, contemplating…

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