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The Quiet Prejudice of ‘You Are Not Fat, You Have Fat’

This popular phrase might be comforting, but it also perpetuates weight stigma

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“I’ll give you my old dress! You’ll love it.”

A family friend is offering a kind gift: a dress she thinks I’ll like. She is a size 10. I am a size 26.




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